Facing my fears

To be honest I've always been terrified with the idea of getting married. I know an LDS girl afraid to get married. Weird. But that is me. Marriage is a huge commitment that has always daunted me. This week we spoke of the difficulties that newlyweds may encounter and the adjustments that we need to make. There are several things that will make the marriage work out successfully and most importantly lead to a happy marriage. When we get married we become one entity, of one purpose. People are afraid to marry because they are worried they will lose themselves, lose their "identity." But if getting married means becoming one, how would it that work if people remained the exact same. Eating habits, sleeping habits, hygiene habits, spending habits...if we didn't change at least one of these things the marriage would never work. We need to make adjustments in ourselves, our habits and in our lives for marriage. This doesn't mean we have to change everything about us, because typically factor in why people get married and chose their spouses was because of their compatibility. So obviously they are compatible for each other, but now they need to work on minor adjustments to help accommodate their spouse. Brother Williams said in class that he of all the really successful marriages that he has seen didn't just happen accidentally or didn't happen easily. Marriage isn't supposed to easy and I firmly believe that. Nothing easy is worth it. But our compromise and adjustments we make will